Learning to read and practice without conflict

Impossible? It is possible! Learning to read is a big challenge for children. Often, tensions arise when progress is not as fast as parents or children wish. But with some preparation and the right approach, learning to read can not only be stress-free but also joyful.

What should we read?

To ensure that children enjoy reading, we need to consider their learning level and interests. Simply put: We need to meet them where they are. This begins with the choice of reading material.

A good way is to go together with your child to a library or a bookstore. Perhaps your child will also bring books home from the school library. When selecting books together, don’t just look at the cover — open the book and take a look inside. The text should not be too small, and pictures can help spark interest. Book series for beginner readers are particularly recommended. Booksellers and librarians are also happy to help.

If you don’t like the book or find that it’s still too difficult, put it aside. Your child should definitely have a say in this decision. Reading should be fun.

When, how long, and how often?

If possible, read at the same time every day in a distraction-free environment. In the beginning, your child will need your active support. This could be in the morning before school, in the evening before bed, or even before dinner. The duration of reading time depends on how long your child can concentrate. Ten minutes is a good start — more or less is, of course, possible. Trust your instincts! More important than reading for a long time is practicing every day.

Reading is a complex cultural skill that is not learned overnight. That’s why rituals and repetition are indispensable. A daily, fixed reading time creates reliability and helps the child become more confident step by step.

How do I read with my child?

The most important goal when reading together is to enjoy the stories. Therefore, the focus should always be on the joy of reading. Your child reads as many letters, words, and sentences as they can, and you take over when they can’t continue. If you don’t read too quickly, your child will learn from you. Make sure your child can see the text and read along quietly. It also helps if you point to the word you are reading. This alternating reading helps immerse in the story and motivates them to learn to read on their own.

No pressure — no conflict

Perhaps the most important principle in learning to read: No scolding and no punishment! Pressure creates resistance and takes away the child’s joy in learning. Instead, reading together should be only fun.

If, despite regular practice, you notice that over a longer period of time you’re not making progress, it may be helpful to contact your child’s teacher. They will surely be happy to assist.

And finally…

There is no fixed benchmark for how many words, books, or days it takes for your child to read fluently. Every child is different. Make reading time valuable quality time that you both can enjoy. Don’t expect your child to do something they haven’t yet learned — that only leads to frustration on both sides. Meet your child where they are. The only expectation should be that you read together every day.

* More tips will be in the next blog articles. If you have specific questions, feel free to ask them in the comments. I look forward to your feedback!